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YOU are a BADASS

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By Jen Sincero
In order to be the brightest, happiest, badassiest version of yourself, you need to go from wanting to change your life to deciding to change your life.
“The day came when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” - Anaïs Nin
If you want to live a life, you’ve never lived, you have to do things you’ve never done.
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Chapter 1: How you got this way
“You are a victim of the rules you live by “ - Jenny Holzer
It’s not your fault you’re fucked up. It’s your fault if you stay fucked up.
Most people are living in an illusion based on someone else’s beliefs
Our conscious mind is also known as our frontal lobe and doesn’t fully develop until puberty
Every time you ask yourself “what is my problem?” the answer lies in some limiting and false unconscious belief you’ve been dragging around without realizing it
Our subconscious mind is also known as our beliefs - and no matter how big or how much we want our conscious mind to be in control, our subconscious mind runs the show.
No matter what you say you want, if you have an underlying subconscious belief, you’ll go off and lose it anyway
When our subconscious beliefs are out of alignment with the things we want in our conscious minds (and hearts), it creates confusing conflicts between what we’re trying to create and what we’re actually creating
The first key to ridding yourself of limiting subconscious beliefs is to become aware of them.
For now, practice stepping aside, notice what’s happening in the dysfunctional areas of your life and strengthen your awareness around them.
Because once you really see what’s going on with your subconscious beliefs, you can remove them and open up space for new ones
Chapter 2: The G word
“If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency, and vibration.” - Nikola Tesla
All of us are connected to this limitless power (God) and most of us aren’t even using a fraction of it.
The more I meditate and give attention to this invisible superpower, the more effortlessly I can manifest things I want into my life
The foundation for all the work we’re about to do together on your life:
The universe is made up of source energy
All energy vibrates at a certain frequency. Which means you’re vibrating at a certain frequency, and everything you desire, and don’t desire, is also vibrating at a certain frequency.
Vibration attracts like vibration.
Otherwise known as the law of attraction
Focus on that which makes you feel good and ye shall find (attract) that which makes you feel good.
When we’re vibrating at a low frequency (feeling pessimistic, needy, victimized, jealous shamefully, worried, convinced we are ugly) yet expect high frequency (awesome things and experiences to come into our lives), we are often disappointed).
You need to raise your frequency to match the vibration of the one you want to tune into
The Universe will match whatever vibration you put out. And you can’t fool The Universe.
“Coincidence is God’s way of remaining anonymous” - Albert Einstein
When you learn to consciously master the energetic realm, believe in the not yet seen, and stay in your highest frequency, you harness your innate power to create the reality you desire.
Awareness is your key to freedom
In order to truly raise your vibration, you’ve got to believe that everything you want is available to you
All we have to do is align our energy with what we want to take decisive action on to allow this good into our lives.
The trick is to have both parts, energy and action, working in unison.
Get very clear on what you truly want, believe that it is available to you (regardless of present circumstances) by keeping your frequency high, and taking decisive action. You will succeed.
Have you ever had a dream where you’re flying, but then you realize “hey, I can’t fly,” come crashing back down to the ground and can’t get yourself back up again? This is the way beliefs work.
And belief is not only about when times are good, but when they are bad too.
“One does not discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time” - André Gide
Abundance mindset. Belief. Faith greater than fear.
Chapter 3: Present as a pigeon
“If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present.” - Lao Tzu
It never ceases to amaze me the precious time we spend chasing the squirrels around our brains, playing out our dramas, seeking adoration, justifying our actions, complaining, when we are sitting in the middle of a full blown miracle
We’re on a planet that somehow knows to rotate on its axis and follow a defined path while it hurtles through space!
We have love, laughter, language, living rooms, computers, compassion, music, medicine, mountains, and muffins!
We live in a limitless universe overflowing with miracles
Animals are the perfect teachers of living in the present. Even if I’ve only been gone for an hour. You’re here. I’m here. I love you. I’m gonna pee all over the floor thinking about it.
Little kids are the same way. They are constantly living in a state of bliss and don’t worry about what other people think about them or if they’re as good at finger painting as the girl next to them. They are in the moment.
We would be wise to take more of our cues from beasts and babies.
The life you want to live is right here, right now.
It’s not that the things and opportunities we want in life don’t exist yet.
It’s that we’re not yet aware of their existence (or the fact that we can really have them).
Feel your breath moving in and out of your body. Feel the air on your skin. Feel your heart beating. Your eyes seeing. Your ears hearing. Notice the energy inside and outside of you buzzing. Shut off your thoughts and feel your connection to the source energy.
Right right now, in this moment, you can find peace and joy in that which simply is.
Being present, gets you out of your head and connects you to source energy, which races your frequency, which attracts things of like frequency to you.
And all of those high frequency, things and experiences are already here, just waiting for you to join the party – all you have to do is shut up, show up, and usher them in.
Chapter 4: The big snooze
“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are” - Kurt Cobain
Our ego prevents us from waking up to how truly powerful we are or how massively abundant our universe is.
Oftentimes, taking great leaps of faith is labeled as irresponsible (until you succeed, of course)
Because watching someone else totally go for it can be incredibly upsetting to the person who’s spent a lifetime building a solid case for why they themselves can’t.
When you decide to wake up from the big snooze, and decide to make massively positive changes in your life, you may have to deal with disapproval from people who are snoring away
Especially the people closest to you, lame as that may sound.
I highly recommend keeping your mouth shut around people who are going to bring you down
The big snooze (your ego) is like the overprotective Italian mother who never wants you to go outside but wants you to live with her forever. Her intentions are good, but fully fear based.
When taking great leaps forward, life often turns to shit before it turns to Shinola.
Your ego will do everything it can to stop you from changing and growing, especially since you’re attempting to obliterate the very identity that everyone else has come to know as “you.”
Growth ain’t for weenies, but it’s nowhere near as painful as living the life you’re living right now if you’re not really going for it.
Whatever happens, stay the course, because there is nothing cooler than watching your entire reality shift into one that is the perfect expression of you.
Chapter 5: Self-perception is a zoo
We spend our lives drifting between glimpses of our own, infinite glory, and the fear that not only are we totally incapable/unworthy/lazy/horrible, but it’s only a matter of time before someone blows the whistle on us.
It’s just as way to believe we’re awesome as it is to believe we suck.
Takes the same amount of energy. The same amount of focus. So why do we choose all the drama?
Try seeing yourself through the eyes of someone who admires you.
They get it. They believe in you leaps and bounds. They aren’t connected to your insecurities and negative beliefs about yourself. All they see is true glory and potential.
Become one of your own die-hard fans, look at yourself from the outside, where all your self doubts can’t crawl over you and behold what shines through.
You get to choose how you perceive your reality. So why choose anything other than a rockstar?
You are perfect. To think anything less is as pointless as a river thinking it has too many curves or that it moves too slowly.
You’re on a journey with no defined beginning, middle, or end.
You are the only you there is and ever will be.
Chapter 6: Love the one you is
As we grow up, we replace our natural instincts and beliefs with fear, shame, and self-doubt.
It’s like we’re born with a big bag of money, more than enough to fund any dream of ours, and instead of following our instincts and our hearts, we invest in what other people believe we should invest in.
Most devastating: we invest everything we’ve got into believing we’re not good enough.
We arrive as perfect bundles of joy and then set out to un-love ourselves.
And conceit/narcissism don’t count as self love. Those also come from fear.
You need to have a deep connection with your highest self, and an unshakable ability to forgive our lowest.
I’m talking about loving ourselves enough to let go of guilt, resentment, and criticism to embrace compassion, joy, and gratitude.
When we’re happy and in love with ourselves, we can’t be bothered with the bullshit (our own or other people’s)
If you woke up every morning certain of your own lovability and critically important role on this planet, your world would be a much better place.
9 of the best ways to love yourself:
Chapter 7: I know you are but what am I?
Do not waste your precious time giving one single crap about what anybody else thinks of you
Other people’s opinions motivate every move we make in our teens and in our twenties.
As we age, if we’re moving in the right direction, our obsession with how we’re perceived by others begins to trickle away (but very few defeat it completely)
The only questions you ever need to consider when making decisions:
We throw a wet blanket of ho-hummery over our lives when we live in fear of what others might think, instead of in celebration of who we are.
Yes, it’s apart of survival instinct to care—get booted from the tribe and you’ll freeze to death. But there’s now a world that when you get booted, you’ll find another tribe you actually relate with.
You could not only wind up doing what you love, surrounded by people you adore, but one day actually forget the people whose approval you so desperately thought you would die without.
Nobody who ever accomplished anything big or new did it from their comfort zone.
You are responsible for what you say and do. You are not responsible for whether people freak out about it.
It’s not about the movie, it’s about the movie goers.
The trick is to deny criticism any power over you, and, even more challenging, not get caught up in the praise.
If you base all your self-worth on what others think of you, then you will end up chasing after something you have no control over.
All that matters is what’s true for you, and if you can stay connected to that without straying, you will be a mighty superhero.
Everything else is just other people’s perception of reality, and that is none of your business
How to truly not care about other people's opinions of you:
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Chapter 8: What are you doing here?
Getting clear about what your unique purpose is can be the difference between a happy, fulfilled life or living in the restrictive pig pen of your own indecision and tired excuses.
When we share what we were brought here to give, we are in alignment with our highest, most powerful selves.
Every single person is born with unique and valuable gifts to share with the world
Living a life on purpose is available to everyone: you just need some clarity first
How to get clear on who you are and what your calling is:
Chapter 10: Meditation 101
“You are never alone or helpless. The force that guides the stars guides you too.” - Shrii Shrii Anandamurti
During meditation, you’ll realize that a majority of your thoughts squirreling around in your brain are about as valuable and interesting as a bunch of two-year-olds fighting over a sippy cup.
The goal is to quiet your mind of the chatter so you can connect to Source Energy and listen to your inner guidance
With meditation, start small and add more time as you get less squirrelly
The benefits of regular meditation
Try lighting and staring at a candle to improve your focus during meditation
Pick a word to repeat if the squirrels are particularly active
Try to do it first thing in the morning
Kirtan meditation is chanting meditation
Meditation is more essential now than it has ever been with this technology at our fingertips and distraction has become a way of life
“It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.” - André Gide
Chapter 11: Your brain is your bitch
Our thoughts are the most powerful tools we’ve got
“To think what you want to think is to think the truth, regardless of appearances.” - Wallace Wattles
If you fixate your mind on this truth, believe that it is real and already here, and take decisive action, it will manifest itself
Your thoughts and beliefs dictate your reality, so if you want to change your reality, you have to change your beliefs
As long as you feed the beast, it shall live.
The moment you have the audacity to start believing in the not-yet seen, your reality will begin to shift.
You have to change your thinking first before the evidence will appear.
When you believe in the not-yet seen, you’re not supposed to know how to make it happen, because if you knew how, you probably would have done it already.
This is about radically changing your reality, so the way to go about it is also most likely outside of your present awareness.
Your job isn’t to know the how, it’s to know the what and to be open to discovering, and receiving, the how.
Keep your thoughts directed at your goal, do everything that you do know how to do to make it happen, decide with unwavering, determination, that it will happen, and be on the lookout for the opportunity.
"The world as we created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking." - Albert Einstein
6 ways to manifest great things happening:
Chapter 12: Lead with your crotch
The problem is that once we’re older and “wiser,” many people trade in living fully in their purpose for more “grown-up” versions of life that full-on suck.
They’ve bought into the idea that being responsible = not having fun anymore
That waking up feeling excited about life is for the young, and once we settle down we need to be more “realistic”
We only get to be in our bodies for a limited time, why not celebrate the journey instead of merely riding it out until it’s over?
We must focus on the positives instead of the list of negatives we’ve collected over time, and keep that focus no matter what flies in our faces.
And one of the best ways to do that is to reconnect with our inner kids
There’s nothing as unstoppable as a freight train full of fuck-yeah.
Just see what you can get away with - it takes all the pressure off, puts the punk rock attitude in, and reminds you that life is just a game.
Take the pressure off and get back in on the adventure
Make doing the things you love, the things that you lose track of time doing, a priority
Keep being the beginner. The only thing you need to do is the very best you can.
Once you’ve done that, the only thing that matters is you enjoy yourself.
Love yourself. And the bluebirds of happiness will be your permanent backup singers.
Chapter 13: Give and let give
When we trust that we live in an abundant universe and allow ourselves to give freely, we raise our frequency, strengthen our faith, and feel awesome, thereby putting ourselves in flow and a position to receive abundant amounts in return.
When we’re in fear, we hold onto what we’ve got because we don’t trust that there’s more.
We pinch off the energy, we’re scared to share, and we focus on, and create more of, the very thing we’re hoping to avoid, which is lack.
If you want to attract good things and feelings into your life, send awesomeness out to everyone around you.
Some examples:
Pick one or two causes that have real meaning to you and give to them every month. However, much time or money you can.
Give one of your favorite things in the world away to someone who would totally love it. And if you can, do it without them, knowing who it came from.
Leave a dollar more than you normally would every time you tip. Or ten.
If someone is being snarky, instead of syncing to their level, raise them up by giving them the love.
Smile, complement, and crack people up as often as possible.
Say yes to invitations, you wouldn’t normally say yes to.
Stopping in your body, how great it feels when you give and receive; raise your frequency and expect more good things to come your way.
Love yourself.
Chapter 14: Gratitude is the gateway drug to awesomeness
“When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.” - Tony Robbins
Aside from the fact that being polite makes you feel like a good person, people will usually do what you ask them to do if you’re nice about it.
You cut yourself off from the supply of awesomeness when you were not in a state of gratitude
Being in a state of gratitude is about having an awareness, and appreciation of, the many miracles in your life.
The more consistently you stay in gratitude and focused on that which is good, the stronger your vibrations, and the more quickly and effortlessly you’ll be able to manifest that which is unseen into your reality.
Faith is having the audacity to believe in the not yet seen
If you wanna be a real rockstar in the manifestation department, get to the point where you have both unwavering faith and unwavering gratitude for that which you desire.
Treat your faith and gratitude like pulling into a parking lot and immediately finding a good spot. And you are grateful for it.
Gratitude informs the universe that you know what you desire already exists, and puts you at the right frequency to receive it.
Finding the good and the lessons in things allows us to move through them and on to new experiences.
Chapter 15: Forgive or fester
Your higher self could give a crap about what anybody else thinks or does because your higher self is madly in love with you and that’s all that matters.
The moment you decide to forgive and let your negative feelings melt away, you are on the road to freedom.
Holding on to resentment is like taking poison and waiting for your enemies to die.
If you are having issues with someone you care about, explain how you feel without putting the blame on them.
Regardless of the outcome, forgive them.
Forgiving isn’t about being nice to them, it’s about being nice to yourself.
8 ways to forgive others:
Do yourself a favor and use irritating situations and people as opportunities for growth, not pain.
Chapter 16: Loosen your bone
“You don’t paddle against the current, you paddle with it. And if you get good at it, you throw away the oars.” - Kris Kristofferson
Talk to strangers, we’re all family on this planet.
Expect, and enjoy, the unexpected.
Find the humor.
Join the party.
Live in the moment.
Time spent enjoying yourself is never time wasted.
Share your space.
Loosen your bone.
Love yourself…and life becomes a party.

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YOU are a BADASS