What You Can Learn About Yourself From Your Past Lovers
by Nino · 10 things on NewTwos
- You may still have memories of your past love despite being in a stable relationship now.
- A study by University of Kansas psychologist Ting Ai and colleagues suggests that these memories could serve valuable functions and benefit your current life.
- Nostalgia about your ex could inform the way you relate to your current partner and strengthen your positive schemas.
- Positive memories may increase your desire to connect with your current partner and make you feel capable of attaining intimacy.
- The study focused on inducing nostalgic memories to promote feelings of self-growth and improve relationship quality.
- Focusing on positive takeaways from the past is different from being attracted to or ruminating over your ex.
- You can use nostalgia for personal development by actively reinterpreting your past relationship and identifying how it shaped your current self-identity.
- Your past lover's influence contributed to shaping the person you are today.
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