Falling in love with ADHD
by Andi · 12 things on NewTwos
- I’ve noticed that most discussions about having a partner with ADHD focus on how to handle the situation. It's rare to hear about the positive aspects that partners with ADHD bring to a relationship. Criticisms towards them will only and mostly be hurtful and tiring, and the last thing they need is to feel like a burden.
I want to take a moment to appreciate the unique and beautiful qualities that individuals with ADHD can bring to a relationship.
- Partners with ADHD are among the most loyal, generous, engaged, and genuinely fun people you could meet. And after a lifetime of criticism for their ADHD faults, they need for their partners to recognize these good qualities — and vice versa, for that matter.
- 400 people were surveyed and asked what they loved most about their significant others. Their answers — about romance, bravery, and kind hearts:
- “I love his never-ending energy to engage us all. He makes us feel like no one else matters when we are with him!”
- “I’m the one who carefully plans everything — so having someone willing to just randomly do something on the spur of the moment helps balance that.”
- “He is very creative and observant, oftentimes seeing things that I would overlook.”
- “He is extremely smart and good at many, many things. When in hyperfocus, he learns how to do such more than the average person could.”
- “Compassion, empathy, understanding, and the ability to help others see ADHD NOT as a deficit, but as the awesomely unique and creative way our brains function.”
- “We laugh a lot about some of the aspects of ADHD, like, ‘Where’s my phone?’ ‘You're talking on it!’”
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